"The elephant in the room (also elephant in the living room, elephant in the parlor, elephant in the corner, elephant on the dinner table, elephant in the kitchen, elephant on the coffee table, and horse in the corner) is an English idiom for an obvious truth that is being ignored or goes unaddressed. It is based on the idea that an elephant in a room would be impossible to overlook; thus, people in the room who pretend the elephant is not there might be concerning themselves with relatively small and even irrelevant matters, compared to the looming big one." From Wickipedia
Everyone knows about a problem or circumstance but not one person wants to bring it up! How many times have I fallen into this trap in order to avoid conflict? More than I care to admit. I've also been thinking about this phrase lately as I hear various political factions spout their "talking points" with much glibness and little thought. Some things which seem obvious are denied, commonsense is uncommon and I am left feeling there is nothing I can do to change anything. But that thought is a denial of the power I do have. I suspect that one reason I like to listen to flamboyant commentators like Glenn Beck is because being tactful and not rocking the boat was a high priority for me growing up. In fact, it was a survival technique. I enjoy hearing others who are outspoken and in whom I sense truth and conviction. And what is this business of having to watch what you say in a way which is "politically correct"? Is it possible to be tactful and honest as well? I hope so. Maybe someday I will have the courage to express my opinions as openly as do some commentators and some of my friends. And maybe it will feel like freedom to me. Tactful, yes. Framing my words so as not to deliberately offend, yes. And speaking my mind. YES! (And thanks to Nae for using this quote on her blog. You inspire me!)
