Monday, March 24, 2008

Mother and Daughter


This photo was taken in the mid 40's. My mother was adjusting either the scarf, my hair or the sweater I was wearing on what must have been a somewhat cold day in Big Cottonwood Canyon. My father's sister, Lucille, had a cabin there and we had been invited. I don't remember if it was for a family activity or an overnight stay. My father must have taken the picture. I had an ambivalent relationship with both my parents. I like this picture because it shows the tender, loving side of my mother. She was basically a good person. I hope that I have carried on many of her positive qualities. At her best, she was spiritual and insightful. She must have been burdened by a lot of unspoken pain. She was probably clinically depressed as well as having asthma. I find that now I can't judge in the same way I have done in the past. I know too much of the circumstances which make people choose as they do. I am painfully aware of my own deficits. My plan is to continue on with life, moving toward healthier choices for myself. And I hope others will "cut me a lot of slack" as I muddle along. I like the scriptures which tell us that when we judge (as we must) the judgments need to be righteous ones. Clear-eyed and truthful. Full of truth.

3 comments:

Kim said...

This is something I have thought alot about. . . I can be REALLY hard on myself. I am hopeful that I too will get a little slack from those around me. I know that when I look at you and Dad, I don't see the mistakes anymore, as much as see how you did what you knew. That is where the atonement should take over - for me AND for you both. I know my life is better, being born to you and Dad. Thanks!

Kimberlee said...

What a beautiful post. I love your outlook on life and the things you write about. It is not until now, I having children of my own, do I realize EVERYTHING that my mother had and does for me. You tend to judge much less being in the shoes yourself.

Heather said...

I love this picture! That is one blessing from your dad . . . great photos. I'm glad that you're my mom and I'm glad you've passed along your sense of looking for the best in others. This post inspires me to do that!